I want to help reduce the number of hopeless, helpless, depressed and suicidal souls in Nigeria
She is one of Nigeria’s clearest and sought after high impact trainer. She has trained tens of thousands of executives who desired to achieve a high level of Emotional Intelligence.
The Cornell University trained Human Resource Executive, Certified Life Coach, Cognitive Behavioural Specialist, Licensed Emotional Intelligence Practitioner, only female six seconds network leader in Nigeria, is also the convener of the first ever Emotional Intelligence Week in Nigeria and arguably in Africa.
Oyinkan also serves as an ordained Pastor under the astute leadership of Pastors Taiwo and Nomthi Odukoya.
In celebration of World’s Mental health week, Oyinkan shares her inspiring story with me in this exclusive interview as she highlights the cause of the recent increase in depression and her determination to give hope to those who are hopeless and on the verge of giving up.
In retrospect I think that my childhood prepared me for what I’m doing now because 2 months before I was born my father had stroke and that life altering experience introduced me and my family into a flavor of poverty and scarcity.
I grew up faster than my peers because I had learned how to take responsibility for my existence.
I also promised myself that I was going to be the best version of what God created me to be despite my financially epileptic background.
I must also admit that one clear value my parents transmitted to me was the yearning for knowledge.
I remember my father taught me how to read by giving me a book to read every week and when I was done reading he gave me a gift.
I initially read because I wanted a gift but I later read to a point where I outgrew the gift. I knew I was consuming knowledge for my own good.
I am the voice of your unconscious calling you to embrace your greatness. I amA soul who is passionately consumed by the vision to help adults take responsibility for their mental health and emotional stability.
I desire to help as many people as possible in every state, every country, whatever gender, marital status, sexuality, religion, move from a place of emotional instability to a place of emotional stability, a state of unhappiness to a state of happiness.
I am that soul who craves to help you increase your productivity, happiness and help live a life of fulfilment.
I want you to know that we are not on earth to work, pay bills and die, you are here to enjoy your life.
Inspiration behind Emotions City
My desire to help people move from a state of pain into a state deep happiness and fulfilment ignited my desire to launch Emotions City.
We actually launched the Youthmax Academy earlier which is arguably the first Emotional Intelligence Academy for Millennials in Africa.
Then we started receiving training requests from Professionals and corporate organisations who had been informed of our unparalleled value and results.
The essence of Emotions City is to help people live the best version of their life.
We desire to help people reduce their pain, We desire to give life where death looms, we desire to reduce the number of hopeless, helpless, depressed and suicidal souls in Nigeria.
We are also the only mental health facility in Nigeria who offers round the clock coaching and therapy service.
While others close for the day, our midnight listeners are willing to listen and resolve emotional distractions.
I think that the results of my impact are in the quality of souls that I have been able to raise.
I daily engage a principle I heard a while ago that, it is better to train a child than to repair an adult.
I think it’s true because a number of professionals are repairing adults which in itself isn’t bad but I think we can become more proactive by raising kids instead.
Raising kids is proactive, repairing adults is reactive. To this end, we have created sub units under the YOUTHMAX Academy called the Child and Teen max Academy. It’s been proven that it’s cheaper to raise than to repair.
A broken soul at best will be remoulded but never restored to default setting. Only God restores.
Balancing it all
I doubt the concept work life balance exist, I think what exists in reality is work life integration.
I integrate my life by living and existing one day at a time. I deliberately refuse to engage in emotional labour where I worry about tomorrow.
Tomorrow will take care of itself, My duty is to prepare and plan.
So my responsibility as a Coach, Pastor, Public speaker and Mum are going well. I am not perfect but I am getting better at it daily.
I am in a field plagued my men. Men who have been programmed to think it’s their birth right to lead. Men who support other men and will choose other men before they remember women exist.
They do this not because they hate women but because they have been scripted to reach out to other men before women.
The second interesting challenger is fact that some clients feel entitled to your time and expertise.
They feel it is your responsibility to serve them for free once they reach out to you. Most of them haven’t been trained to take responsibility for their mental health.
They have been trained to request for freebies so once your invoice welcomes them to reality, they freeze and some resort to emotional blackmail.
This really doesn’t bother me because I am aware I can’t help everyone. I will only help those I desire to.
We are collaborating with some international organisations to help develop revolutionary products.
We will disclose them in due time but for now, we are concentrating on making Emotions City the one stop centre for emotional intelligence training and solution.
My greatest reward are the evidence of changed lives. I am not on earth to be rich or be wealthy.
I am here to help souls embrace their inner divinity. I am also aware that resources will be provided while being consumed by my passion.
Emotions City in 5 years
In the next five years, we will have moved from being just service providers into products manufacturers and global thought leaders. Are you wondering how? We will share details when we can.
Never giving up
No I have never thought of giving up. My noble goal is addictive enough to consume me.
I however get tired and when I do I reach out to mentors, friends and family members.
I must admit that I am blessed with beautiful relationships that service my existence.
Women who inspire me
Models like Oprah, Serena Williams, Maya Angelou, Bimbo Odukoya inspire me to do more. These souls lived / live for humanity.
Being a Woman of Rubies
One familiar truth I am aware of is that I am authentic.I am true to my soul. My public and private life are in sync.
My words and actions also align.I think my authenticity and my voice are what makes me a woman of rubies.
Nigerians & Awareness to Mental health
Nigerians need more awareness and clarity on mental health. A good number of us actually think mental health is only for people with psychological issues.
We haven’t fully come to terms with the fact that there is no health without mental health.
Cause of increase in Depression
The word is becoming more complex. Culture is changing. Economy is worsening.
The rules of parenting, relationships and success are being redefined. Social media is brewing envy and jealousy.
These complex engagements are ultimately climaxing some emotionally unstable adults into a state of unhappiness, hopelessness, helplessness, self esteem issues, inferiority complex etc. Once all of these states set in and your internal affairs are more disempowering than empowering.
You will question your existence. Once you feel you are not good enough, nobody cares about you, the world will be better without you.
Suicide becomes attractive. Suicide is however not an option. There are at least five other options you can embrace and we can show you how at Emotions City.
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